"you can’t ship that, that character has canon interaction with the opposite sex"
i remember when i was in second grade and i saw my sister kiss her female friend on the cheek and i was totally floored because i didn’t know two girls could kiss each other and i went to school and told my friends and we all started kissing each other and i basically started a lesbian uprising
whoever created chinese food is my hero
probably the chinese
"you’re an adult now"
"you need to choose a career"
"you need to make your own doctor’s appointment"
lana del rey + frederick chilton
wow, ngl, judging you a bit over that hydra trash party thing
I’m guessing that your ask is in response to this post. And… I understand the judging, and honestly I’ll probably never be able to convince you otherwise. I’m well aware that some of my kinks are problematic and I would never pretend that they aren’t; I’m always very careful to tag things as best I can so that people don’t encounter material that they’re uncomfortable with on my blog, and I try to keep my posts as viewer-friendly as possible without completely denying that those kinks exist for me.
That being said:
I read about things in fiction that I would never, ever want to happen in real life all the time. Torture, psychological devastation, horrifying murder — and yes, sometimes stories that feature very fucked-up consent issues. For me, fandom has always been a place where I’ve been able to explore elements of my sexuality (even the more problematic ones) in a safe environment — and most importantly, in an environment wherein no one gets hurt. In my mind, it’s similar to a negotiated BDSM scene that features non-consensual elements: no one is harmed, and everyone is aware that they’re roleplaying shit they would never ever want to experience in real life. In the context of fanfiction, as long as the work is tagged appropriately and admits to its own problematic nature, no one is harmed. People can avoid what they do not want to see or things that would trigger them and no hurt is incurred as a result.
What I like best about the Hydra Trash Party is that it never once forgets the problematic nature of the kinks being explored. No one is deluding themselves and saying that the relationships being presented are healthy ones — which is when things get really fucked up and awful and disturbing for me personally. The people who write these fics/draw this art are not being coy about what they’re doing; they’re trash kinks and they know it, and that’s why it’s tucked into a corner of fandom and labelled with big flashing neon letters so that it can easily be avoided by others.
So yeah. I understand the judging. That part of fandom is something that will always be controversial and upsetting for people, and I get it. Please feel free to blacklist the terms, or unfollow me if it makes you that uncomfortable. I just hope that tags and monikers like the Hydra Trash Party will keep helping you to identify material you don’t want to see so that you can keep yourself safe and not engage with it if you don’t want to.