Sally Kempton (via yourenotsylviaplath)
It’s been apparent to me for a while that most men can’t really imagine “equality.” All they can imagine is having the existing power structure inverted.
I cannot decide whether this shows how unimaginative they are, or shows how aware they must be of what they do in order to so deeply fear having it turned on them.
god i fucking hate all the posts that are like “pansexuals and asexuals make the best friends because pans flirt with everyone and aces help keep them in check” like wow those are such disgusting stereotypes please get them away from me. not all pansexuals are all incredibly flirty people who dont know how to keep it in their pants, and not all asexuals are frigid prudes who are devoid of pick-up lines.
“Guardians of the Galaxy was such a fantastic movie!”
"There were a lot of issues with GotG that should be addressed and Marvel should work on improving with future movies."
headcanon: Bucky Barnes + Bucky Bears
Bucky doesn’t see the big fuss, really. They didn’t even get the costume right. As if he’d wear little sky-blue booty shorts in war with tights and thigh-high boots.
"I think they’re cute," Steve says, smiling as he picked one off of the stand.
"Don’t buy that." Bucky says, snatching it out of his hand. Steve just picks up another one.
"You used to collect Captain America comic books back in the day," Steve points out.
"That’s different." Bucky sniffs. "Those were a riot. This is character assassination.”
Steve laughs. “Maybe if we gave him a little bottle of bourbon and a tiny sniper rifle?”
He finds one on Natasha’s bed.
"I can explain." She says, walking in to find him staring at it. He turns to look at her and she grins. "Actually, there’s nothing to explain. I’ve just always wanted to say that."
"I feel like you’re stepping out on me," Bucky says, picking up the bear. It even smells like Natasha, like it had been snuggled against her neck night after night while Bucky was mucking through the swamps of Panatal. He was jealous.
"That’s such an adorable accusation I’m not even going to get angry at you," Natasha says, plugging in her hair straightener and fixing her makeup in the mirror as it heats up.
Bucky squeezes the bear as hard as he can, making its little glass eyes bug out of the domino mask.
"Uh huh," Sam says unsympathetically, slurping on his three berry smoothie. "Yeah talk to me when Falcon Bear gets so popular that Natasha cuddles one to sleep every night. Then I’ll cry with you."
"That would be weird, though." Bucky says, stirring his own strawberry banana smoothie. "A bear with wings?"
"A Falcon bear."
"But it would be a bear, but also a bird?"
"No, it would be a bear in a Falcon suit-" Sam smacked Bucky on the arm as Bucky started cracking up.
For Christmas, Bucky buys a plain bear and digs out an old leather jacket of his that had gotten torn up on a mission. Painstakingly, he sews a little leather Falcon harness, complete with a full set of wings painted silver. And little goggles to boot.
It looks so good that he makes a little Black Widow bear too, choosing a bear with reddish-colored fur and scouring the internet for weeks to find an hourglass charm he can make into the belt buckle.
Captain America already had a bear, though it had never attained the popularity of Bucky Bear. So Bucky makes a Steve bear. Complete with a gingham shirt tucked into khaki pants, and an artfully rumpled trench coat. In one paw it held a falsified army recruitment form.
"Wow, that’s so thoughtful," Clint says, when he saw them. "Way to blow all of us out of the water forever, you douchebag."
"Oh these aren’t gifts," Bucky says lightly, packing them in boxes. "These are revenge.”
Falcon, Black Widow and preserum Steve Rogers bears hit the stores a month before Christmas, and quickly become the best selling toys of 2014, quickly outstripping the classic Bucky Bear, who most modern children could no longer associate with The Avengers.
"Really?" Steve demands, "A falsified army recruitment form?"
"I think it’s cute," Bucky laughs, eyeing the shelves and shelves of bears. "A riot.”
Trigger warnings for ableism, abuse, autistic “therapy”, discussion of a cure, discussion of murder, eugenics, the way Autism Speaks uses their research, etc. All of this is under a cut. Be forewarned.
When a person thinks of the term “Autism Awareness” in the United States, it’s usually one organization that comes to mind - Autism Speaks. It is heralded by celebrities, politicians, nonprofit and for profit organizations alike. Many parents of autistic children enthusiastically applaud their “efforts”, even partaking in fundraising, despite not knowing much about what those efforts entail.
Ask an autistic person, however, and you might get quite a different picture of Autism Speaks.
The number one tenet of any activism among disability groups is “Nothing About Us Without Us”, yet Autism Speaks can’t even manage to meet this one basic qualification. They have never had an autistic member on their board. Their current board consists of parents, including one who founded SafeMinds, which has contributed to the anti vaccination movement, as well as another board member who used be a board member for Cure Autism Now. To view the full list, click here. To view a list of other leadership in their organization, click here.
The only autistic person high enough up in their leadership to be worth mentioning was John Elder Robison, author of Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger’s Syndrome and part of their science advisory board. He resigned his position in November 2013, a decision he spoke about on his blog.
Autism Speaks spends just 3% of the money they raise back into helping families and autistic people. This comes in various forms, and not all of it is aimed at actually helping autistic people. Some of it is aimed at communication devices for autistic children and teenagers, and this is of course a very good thing. Much of it is also aimed at providing ABA therapy for autistic people, which is a behavioral intervention that much of the autism community opposes, particularly autistic people who are now adults who were subjected to it as children. Some accounts of this are here, here, here and here.
Autism Speaks’ goals are clearly stated in their mission statement. It reads:
At Autism Speaks, our goal is to change the future for all who struggle with autism spectrum disorders.
We are dedicated to funding global biomedical research into the causes, prevention, treatments and a possible cure for autism. We strive to raise public awareness about autism and its effects on individuals, families, and society: and we work to bring hope to all who deal with the hardships of this disorder. We are committed to raising the funds necessary to support these goals.
Autism Speaks aims to bring the autism community together as one strong voice to urge the government and private sector to listen to our concerns and take action to address this urgent global health crisis. It is our firm belief that, working together, we will find the missing pieces of the puzzle.
I have bolded the parts that stuck out to me as harmful and problematic. Autism Speaks wants to cure autistic people of our autism. Have they involved us in the process? Have they asked any of us? Again, the guiding principle of the disability rights movement is “Nothing about us without us”, but Autism Speaks has left autistic people out of the equation entirely. In addition, it’s clear to see when perusing their scientific research that much of the research is focused on identifying genetic markers for autism, presumably so that autism can be prevented.
Is autism an “urgent, global health crisis”? I don’t believe it is. Studies have shown that there is a similar percentage of adults that show the same symptoms of autism as is shown among children currently being diagnosed with autism. Link here.
The above mission statement is indicative of a larger problem in the way that Autism Speaks speaks about autistic people.
Autism Speaks is responsible for the atrocity known as I Am Autism. Directed by Alfonso Cuaron, this promotional video utilized a disembodied voice to tell the audience what precisely “autism had stolen” from the families of autistic children, even citing divorce as a result of autism, likely relying on a now disproven statistic that 80% of marriages in which there is an autistic child end in divorce. Neither Cuaron or Autism Speaks has ever offered an apology for this monstrosity, though they did remove it from their YouTube channel.
Autism Speaks is responsible for another media piece called Autism Everyday. There are several issues with this video. The parents spend most of the time talking about what they cannot do with an autistic child. They cannot go out for coffee with their friends, they cannot do x, y, and z, because their child is autistic. The conversation seems to be only focused on what the parents’ lives are like, and there is almost no discussion on how it feels for the autistic child themselves. The worst part of this video, however, is when Alison Singer, former Autism Speaks board member and founder of the Autism Science Foundation, speaks about her desire to drive her daughter and herself off the George Washington Bridge, and only stopped because she was thinking of how it would affect her non-autistic daughter. The heartbreaking part of this is that she says all of this in front of her autistic daughter, with no regard as to whether her daughter can hear and understand.
Autism Speaks often refers to autism as a “puzzle”, making use of a human-shaped blue puzzle piece in their logo. The puzzle piece did not originate with Autism Speaks, but their continued use of it, in addition to phrases like “…will find the missing piece of the puzzle” as stated in their mission statement shows that they don’t really value autistic people as fully human people. We are puzzles and we are missing pieces of ourselves, and we must become neurotypical in order to be respected by this group.
Suzanne Wright, one half of the founding team of Bob and Suzanne Wright, who founded Autism Speaks in 2005, focuses her “founder’s message” on speaking about the ways to supposedly help the families of autistic people, with little discussion of how to help autistic people ourselves. She concludes this message with the phrase “This disorder has taken our children away. It’s time to get them back.”
- Jess, a blogger and mother of an autistic daughter, who blogs at A Diary of a Mom, detailed her encounter with Suzanne Wright and Autism Speaks here. This details everything that is wrong with ABA therapy, lack of consent, as well as just having no idea how to relate to an autistic child. The fact that Suzanne Wright was one of the first voices of an organization such as Autism Speaks, while having no idea what consent even means, is horrifying.
Autism Speaks has been involved in legislative issues, and while many people would consider this to be a positive effort, the effect this has on autistic people is actually quite negative.
As stated previously, they have members of their board who are very concerned with environmental factors (such as vaccines) and how they contribute to autism diagnoses. Autism Speaks was, for quite a long while, very much anti vaccination. Alison Singer left Autism Speaks in 2009, no longer wanting to be a party to an organization that wanted to spend so much on researching vaccines, a link that has long been disproven.
A requirement that the Leadership and Education in Neurodevelopmental Disabilities (LEND) program, a federally-funded training program to provide interdisciplinary training to students seeking to support children and youth with disabilities, take steps to recruit trainees on the autism spectrum and those with other developmental disabilities;
Specifically emphasizing the needs of racial and ethnic minority groups, women and girls and adolescents and adults on the autism spectrum in the definition of “culturally competent services”;
A requirement that autistic people make up at least four of the public members of the Inter-Agency Autism Coordinating Committee or one-third of the public membership, whichever number is higher, and that at least one such individual be a person who has received Medicaid Home and Community Based Services;
A requirement that LEND programs convene stakeholder advisory committees consisting of a majority of individuals on the autism spectrum or with other developmental disabilities;
Opening the Autism Centers of Excellence research funding stream to include research on developmental disability service provision, supported employment, inclusive education and other fields related to the integration of autistic people into the broader community; and,
A requirement that each Autism Center of Excellence grant awarded include a stakeholder advisory committee with a majority of individuals on the autism spectrum.
Autism Speaks has also allied themselves with the Judge Rotenberg Center. If you don’t know what the Judge Rotenberg Center is, it is an institutional that routinely uses electroshock on autistic people as punishment for even minor infractions. Here are a few links for more information. x x x Please read all links with caution. This is a gruesome practice, and the fact that Autism Speaks is offering such an organization a place at one of their resource fairs, as a potential resource for parents of autistic children is quite alarming.
Autism Speaks has recently teamed up with Google for the Ten Thousand Genomes Project, also known as AUT10K. The major issues with this project are mentioned at the link, but they include questioning Autism Speaks’ intentions with the information as well as ethical and privacy concerns . Some information regarding autistic people’s rights with regard to genetic testing can be found here.
A short list of a few other notable failures of Autism Speaks:
Autism Speaks shared the news of Google removing hate speech regarding autistics from Google’s autofill feature, completely erasing any mention of autistic people’s flashblogs having anything to do with the change. It was only after a member of the autism community (and not a parent, but an autistic person themselves) spoke with a reporter about the flashblog and a statement was released to the media that Google decided to make this change.
This woman’s job offer was rescinded after she asked Autism Speaks for accommodations in caring for her autistic son. They refused, and she made necessary accommodations for childcare, but they withdrew her offer anyways.
Autism Speaks has reported on the murders of autistic people by their parents/caretakers, but has never reported said facts without somehow pointing to “lack of resources” as a reason for such tragedies, as well as continually ignoring their own possible culpability in these crimes. One example is the attempted murder of Issy Stapleton. The more negative rhetoric there is about autism, the more people will dehumanize autistic people to the point that autistic people become a list of behaviors instead of actual people with emotions and needs.
Autism Speaks often utilizes functioning labels when speaking about autistic adults. They use the numbers of so-called “high functioning” autistic adults to prove that autism is an epidemic, but refuse to listen to anyone they deem as high functioning (essentially, anyone who can use a computer). They incidentally also ignore people they deem as “low-functioning”, because they refuse to presume competence. Here is a lovely message written by a nonspeaking Autistic advocate, Amy Squenzia. In addition, here is why you should not be using functioning labels (or tell me how “high functioning” you think I am because I am able to type this document).
Interested in learning more?
Want to support autistic people? Here are a few worthy organizations/groups/pages.
- Donations for Darren Wilson mysteriously halt after reaching over $400K. Darren Wilson Gofundme page officially shut down!!!
- The “Support Darren Wilson” Facebook page is deleting comments about basic financial questions and is urging supporters to petition against the Mike Brown Fund
- Time uses the word “negrophobia” instead of “racism” and compares fear of spiders to fear of black people. Seriously.
- The truth about flash bangs
- Public art on Canfield: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6)
- Video from the March on Ferguson
- Video from DC’s Mike Brown Rally
- 10 people from the Lost Voices organization are living in tents (x) until there is justice for Mike Brown
- Mike Brown’s family asks for 4 1/2 minutes of silence tomorrow instead of highway protest
Alice + Olivia at New York Fashion Week Fall 2013
why do teenage boys go through that phase where they just imitate female moaning noises
it’s the only way they can hear it